Your husband’s differences can bring beauty in your life and relationship

    I love to play it safe and err on the side of caution. Jeremiah thrives on adventure, spontaneity and risk. So on our way home the other night from eating out together, he wanted to take the back roads home.
    “Remember, we have about 20 minutes until I told our baby sitter we’d be home,” I responded.
    “We’ll be fine,” he said.
    We veered off the highway and onto one of the many dirt roads we aren’t familiar with in rural Colorado. The sun began to set and its brilliance illuminated the grassy farmlands filled with grazing cows, rustic barns and golden wheat.
    I felt the temptation to look at my Fitbit for the time, but then a gentle voice in my spirit nudged me to be still and just take it all in. Jeremiah continued following the dirt path and as the sun set, we parked the suburban, rolled down the windows, smelled the country air and talked. It was a perfect escape from daily life and its demands.
    As we recently hit 12.5 years of marriage (women always know these halfway marks it seems!), I’ll admit there have been moments I haven’t always appreciated how different we are. In fact, I’ve been resentful and bitter at times. Selfishness has won my heart, and I haven’t valued how God wired Jeremiah. I have often felt like my way was the better and only way.
    But as I look back on our years together, I’m able to better see just how “normal” my life would be without him gently challenging me to be unconventional. Even when I resisted it and maybe through some fits, he’s known what I’ve needed and I’m better today for it. And I know in the future, I’ll continue to grow in ways I wouldn’t naturally choose.
    As wives, no matter how many years we’ve been married, we can still learn to embrace and respect the unique gifting and abilities in our husbands. And I believe it will bring a closeness and unity in our relationship that we’ve never experienced before. Instead of saying or thinking:
    “You’re crazy!”
    “What in the world are you doing?”
    “We are so different! How will this ever work?”
    “How did we end up together, again?”
    “You want to do what?!!”

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